Striving. Self-Violence. Pressing and pushing up hill and through pain and resistance. You know the jam. The pathologically masculine and sadistic relationship to productivity that permeates our culture. We have medication ads glamorizing the get up and go when the body’s breaking down. We have over-scheduled, back-to-back days where a final collapse in front of Netflix is classified as lazy. We get leverage on ourselves with ‘motivating’ dialogue that’s actually just a loud asshole giving us a play by play of how we’re behind. Are any of these familiar? “Keep going.” “You’re not done yet.” “Don’t give up.” “Push through.”
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Do you have a hard time saying no? Still trying to build up the nerve to ask your boss for that well-deserved raise? Do you notice you’re not getting what you need from you those closest to you? Many of us avoid tough conversations because we don’t want to experience conflict and feel the gritty feelings that come along with it. In this Dear Chela, You’ll learn how to use conflict as a tool to get what you want and even embrace those sticky situations in which things go sideways! What are your thoughts on dealing with conflict? What
Go where your envy takes you. Don’t turn away from your envy as if it makes you dark, as if it makes you petty. Follow it. Let it show you the disowned parts of your soul. Let it bring you face to face with the You who’s being shielded from the light she needs to step into. Don’t hide your eyes from your envy and will it away. Lean toward it and beg to know what it’s asking of you. Let the pain of your envy show you who you are and what you’re longing for.
Raise your hand if the day to day grind is sucking all of the energy you’d like to give to a creative vision! I see hands!!! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a creative project (read: piece of writing,) that I’ve totally wanted to devote some attention to but other priorities get in the way. For me, it’s always something I want to create that’s a little scarier than usual, or will take some time to really wade through. While I do engage my own creativity on the regular, there is always something nipping at me that
I’m spending several hours eavesdropping on intimate conversations between incredibly inspiring women who’ve untangled the knots our culture has tied them into. Want to join? It’s been running this week and is doing a marathon encore this coming weekend Feb 21/22. It’s a free online conference led by Liz DiAlto called Untame the Wild Soul Woman. If you totally dig it, you can also purchase it to watch over and over. I first met Liz when she was a client of mine. I’ve been continually moved to watch the way this woman digs for depth and heart, the way she’s unabashedly and
Holy Goodness there’s a lot being thrown at us. Every moment of every day we’re faced with a litany of messages and possibilities for where to put our attention and energy. For anyone trying to carve out their own path, referencing other’s work, expertise and tips can be supportive and helpful. Except when it’s overwhelming and paralyzing. In this Dear Chela, we explore the question, how do I know which direction is right for me? How about you? How do you find resonance with what you’re up to? Share in the comments. Are you seeking clarity on something? Want some
I’m head over heels in love. We’re newly engaged. We’re past the total insanity phase. We’ve swooshed beyond the ravenous giggle-swoon-love-bath-hang-off-every-word-and-hold-our-farts-in phase. We’ve exited best behaviour. We no longer pick up our dirty socks or wait patiently for the other one to finish speaking before interjecting our opinion. We’re comfortable and gross and funny. But it’s still the beginning. It’s been just over a year since the moment I was like oh-my-god-this-man-might-be-my-person. Fast forward through one helluva year and we’re (he’s) sanding hardwood floors in our new place, both work from home together and have just started on some work
Lots of marketing questions rolling in lately. I can see why. Marketing is a vast topic. The fear of being pushy or overbearing or turning people off seems to be a big one. I’m wondering if this has a lot less to do with learning tips and strategies than it does to uncovering what aligned and authentic expression feels like for you and your offering. In this Dear Chela I share about my own relationship to my life’s work being about far more than closing a sale and how to feel your way through a marketing strategy instead of figuring
I was about twenty or twenty one when I was first introduced to the theory of masculine/feminine, sexual yoga and the work of David Deida. It was shortly after a somewhat awkward conversation with a man I was dating who had asked me about my relationship to vulnerability. If it weren’t for the fact that this is as funny as it is, I’d be humiliated to tell you that I actually had no idea what he was talking about. Vulnerability? Like…what do you mean? No, I don’t feel vulnerable. I’ve got my shit together, can’t you tell? I can still
Things go a little to crap here folks. Foiled by my adolescent sense of humour and the first-take-no-edits promise! But when I do get it together, I offer some practical tips to getting into the thing you’re resisting. While this episode of Dear Chela looks specifically at how to establish a regular yoga practice in the face of some ‘maybe I’ll do it tomorrow’ inner negotiations, it can apply to whatever you’ve been putting off. May it be useful. Got some tips of your own? How does this advice land for you? I’d love to hear from you in the