I’m at the pool and my kiddo bounds out of his swim lesson and begs to show me his new tricks. I stand poolside while he jumps in and sets himself up to push off the edge and do something awesome. His feet slip all over and he can’t seem to get his footing without his face plunging under water. Face back out, he takes a breath and loses his feet. He tries again. And again. Thrashing and plunging, then stabilizing. Over and over. He’s not getting it. I’m standing there, patiently amused, enjoying how adorable he is in one
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I get an astonishing number of questions about unavailable dudes. I spent the better part of my youth pining for them. Maybe it’s an unacknowledged calling of mine to help people walk the hell away from PRPs (potential romantic partners) who are unable to meet them. In any case, I both know the pain that this gal is in AND gave her the tough-love-smack-down. Want a tough love smack down of your own? Have a burning question? Ask me.
Some people like attention. I like attention. Some people don’t like having attention on them. That’s not me. I don’t require all the attention and I love giving my attention to others. Probably not so true of my childhood self. Mom said I didn’t play so well by myself. I’d talk non-stop and demand her full engagement. I used to feel embarrassed when I’d hear about that. I love shared spaces of mutuality where the attention rolls all around us. But I’m more than neutral about attention. I’m far more comfortable taking the lead and being seen than I am
What’s my passion? Where did my passion go? Can I re-ignite a fizzled passion? Why did my passion for this disappear when I tried to make it a reality? (short answer: because dealing with reality is hard and sucky.) If you’ve ever tried to make the leap of turning what you’re passionate about into a vocation only to hit the wall of- I don’t like this anymore- this is for you. It’s the classic tale of Sarah the pie maker from the E-Myth. Open the bakery. Baking pies is sucky. Can you fall in love again? Let’s chat about it…
Have you ever made a leap and it turned out awesome? What about when you’ve landed flat on your face? Play it safe or take a risk. Let’s look at how to know which impulse to follow! Fear, state chasing, wisdom and intuition – sometimes all of these subtle elements can be whirling around in us at the same time. In this Dear Chela episode, I make the distinction between the energy of possibility and grasping for potential. Now to you. What have you noticed as patterns or themes? Do you feel it in your body? How so? Have a
Starting something new is scary. Our minds analyze every move. We play a million ‘what if’ scenarios. If we let the fear run the show, it can cripple us. How can a newbie feel grounded? In this Dear Chela, I suggest following your fear to the end and leveraging what you’ve got right now. Do you have any newbie tips? What did you do to move forward? Have your own burning question? Ask me here PS – Want lots of questions answered?
If you feel like you’re expanding out to the whole world, feeling fully on purpose, taking it up a level, reaching out further and then, contracting to that squeezing, tight space of overwhelm when we run out of energy and resources – I’m with you. How could we possibly bring more compassion and help to a world that’s very structures and systems don’t support or value that? I know we won’t get it from those systems and structures. In this Dear Chela episode I talk about a few ways we can start to identify what we most fundamentally need. Join
This is the final practice in this series and what I love about it is that it’s all about freeing up that ‘grasping for what we don’t have’ thing that many of us do. You know that beast? Look outside of ourselves for what will make us whole or complete or better in some way? Forget that. Over the past few weeks, we’ve really been clearing the space to open to what’s next. We’ve taken stock (week 1), reconciled (week 2) been witnessed in that (week 3) and let go (week 4). This practice is about cultivating what qualities you
When relationships end, we hope that those activating dynamics are over. When, in fact, it can intensify. How do we prepare and create mental and emotional space? An important first step is taking the time to know what’s possible and what might trigger us. This Dear Chela episode offers up some grounding strategies. By the way – this can be useful with anyone that we emotionally bump up against. How about you? What have you done when dealing with an ex? What about other relationships that trigger us? What are the practices you have in place? Join me in the
With the holidays in full force, my home looks like a festive bomb went off. I’ve found that as I’m trying to stay on top of the messes that build in my creative flurries, engaging this week’s practice has been a helpful one to sneak in there. As I’m going through boxes of decorations and cards and wrapping, I’m releasing, donating, tossing what doesn’t totally jive. As I was packing for my ski trip last night, many sweaters and coats that I’ve been hanging onto because…? Gone. This is part 4 of a 5-week free practice called “Powerful Completion”. So