I get an astonishing number of questions about unavailable dudes. I spent the better part of my youth pining for them. Maybe it’s an unacknowledged calling of mine to help people walk the hell away from PRPs (potential romantic partners) who are unable to meet them. In any case, I both know the pain that this gal is in AND gave her the tough-love-smack-down. Want a tough love smack down of your own? Have a burning question? Ask me.
What’s my passion? Where did my passion go? Can I re-ignite a fizzled passion? Why did my passion for this disappear when I tried to make it a reality? (short answer: because dealing with reality is hard and sucky.) If you’ve ever tried to make the leap of turning what you’re passionate about into a vocation only to hit the wall of- I don’t like this anymore- this is for you. It’s the classic tale of Sarah the pie maker from the E-Myth. Open the bakery. Baking pies is sucky. Can you fall in love again? Let’s chat about it…
Have you ever made a leap and it turned out awesome? What about when you’ve landed flat on your face? Play it safe or take a risk. Let’s look at how to know which impulse to follow! Fear, state chasing, wisdom and intuition – sometimes all of these subtle elements can be whirling around in us at the same time. In this Dear Chela episode, I make the distinction between the energy of possibility and grasping for potential. Now to you. What have you noticed as patterns or themes? Do you feel it in your body? How so? Have a
Starting something new is scary. Our minds analyze every move. We play a million ‘what if’ scenarios. If we let the fear run the show, it can cripple us. How can a newbie feel grounded? In this Dear Chela, I suggest following your fear to the end and leveraging what you’ve got right now. Do you have any newbie tips? What did you do to move forward? Have your own burning question? Ask me here PS – Want lots of questions answered?
If you feel like you’re expanding out to the whole world, feeling fully on purpose, taking it up a level, reaching out further and then, contracting to that squeezing, tight space of overwhelm when we run out of energy and resources – I’m with you. How could we possibly bring more compassion and help to a world that’s very structures and systems don’t support or value that? I know we won’t get it from those systems and structures. In this Dear Chela episode I talk about a few ways we can start to identify what we most fundamentally need. Join
When relationships end, we hope that those activating dynamics are over. When, in fact, it can intensify. How do we prepare and create mental and emotional space? An important first step is taking the time to know what’s possible and what might trigger us. This Dear Chela episode offers up some grounding strategies. By the way – this can be useful with anyone that we emotionally bump up against. How about you? What have you done when dealing with an ex? What about other relationships that trigger us? What are the practices you have in place? Join me in the
With the holidays in full force, my home looks like a festive bomb went off. I’ve found that as I’m trying to stay on top of the messes that build in my creative flurries, engaging this week’s practice has been a helpful one to sneak in there. As I’m going through boxes of decorations and cards and wrapping, I’m releasing, donating, tossing what doesn’t totally jive. As I was packing for my ski trip last night, many sweaters and coats that I’ve been hanging onto because…? Gone. This is part 4 of a 5-week free practice called “Powerful Completion”. So
The holidays can be a rough time. Tricky and sticky and emotionally complex. It can also be joyful and connected and playful. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves with what’s going on. Who we’re with. Who we’re not with. Eating. Drinking. Overwhelm. Overconsumption. Do you slip into making yourself wrong? Avoiding what you don’t want? Anticipating the need to control yourself? In this Dear Chela episode, I talk about the cycle we can feel pulsating during this time. And I explore what we are really hungry for. Over to you. Maybe it’s not the eating and drinking. What
Surviving. Sustaining. Growing. Where are you at? In this Dear Chela episode, a reader asks how to balance a full family life with a full and growing business. First, I want to point out that survival mode isn’t a bad thing. It’s valid. It is a state that we can find ourselves in. I offer up some practices and ways of playing with your roles to start shifting out of, or surrendering to, survival and into a more spacious life. Do you have any tips on how to navigate these waters? This is a great conversation to have in the
We’ve all had those moments when judgements are bubbling up about others. Do we call them out or keep tight lipped? Maybe a friend is annoying or an employee isn’t pulling their weight. Or some bigger opinions are tugging to be voiced. In this Dear Chela episode, I break down when telling the truth is honouring our authentic self and when it’s better to keep your opinion to yourself. Over to you. Have you had sticky conversations and how did you make the call to speak your truth? Let’s relate in the comments below. Have your own burning question? Ask