What does it mean to be clear in the midst of not knowing? What does this have to do with realizing our purpose? Everything. Many people come to coaching seeking clarity. So many of us assume that clarity will feel like certainty, yet clarity is most alive when surrendering to what’s unknown. Fear and doubt are also hunkered down in the unknown, waiting for us. For me, fear and doubt manifest as confusion. I get confused when I’m really not. I pretend I need more clarity when I’m right at the edge of what I know is true and what
Give a Shit
Doing Your Work: Your Life. Your Calling. Our World.
True or False: The following career advice is awesome… Studies show that people with a university education make more money. Therefore, get yourself a formal education, even if you can’t afford it, preferably from a prestigious university. Your degree will ensure that you gain employment and have all the skills you need if you want to bust out on your own. When you go for that job, find one where the roles and expectations are clear. Follow the rules and you’ll have security and move up and make more and more money. Try to go for something that you enjoy, but
The World You Want With The Money You Have. On Voting With Your Dollars.
Have you ever gone shopping and gotten a little carried away like you’re on some weird high and spent a little more than you intended to and then afterward crashed and felt gross? Whether it’s buying up the sales rack you stood in line for or loading up on holiday gifts for loved ones, tumbling into excess is an easy trap. Especially this season. Even when you don’t have the money to do it. Every year, around this time, I attend a jewellery launch party at my friend’s studio and inevitably spend hundreds of dollars on her new line. I
Alleviating Suffering Starts with You
The other night, I was snuggled up with my partner watching FED UP, a documentary about the food industry, sugar addiction, the obesity epidemic and the government’s complicit participation in it all. We had to press pause so I could have one of those snotty nosed sobs. When we were choosing what to watch, I hesitated. I kind of hate watching these documentaries. Love/Hate. They get me all fired up. Before I know it, my mind has started formulating some way to mobilize a collective around making change. It’s rare for me to be able to kick back, watch something
From Inadequacy To Leadership. Personal And Collective Liberation As The Same Path.
I used to be a personal development junkie. I say junkie because I was after a state change and I was out to fix what was wrong with me. One course led to another program which led to another retreat or coach or book in hopes that the next thing would fill me, alter me, make me adequate. Whenever someone would give me a line about accepting myself or not having to be a particular way in order to be whole and complete it was…well, confusing. Tell me this, why would I put myself through so much self improvement shit if
When Care Can’t Solve Suffering. Enter Self Loathing.
There’s a cruel character, a voice in the dark, stalking around the edges, waiting for the misstep. Call this the inner critic or the drill sergeant or simply the relentless inner dialogue assessing each move. Over the past year, I participated in a women’s practice group called WHIP (women’s house of integral practice.) We gathered for retreat and practiced across countries in our living rooms with the help of the interweb. Daily meditation. Three yoga classes per week, gathering for cloud calls to work intimately on our relationship to our dharmic expression, the deepening of practice and our unfolding and
How Facebook Sent Me Into An Exasperated Rage. And Why I’m Not Going To Race You.
Facebook totally pissed me off today. I got a notification that suggested I watch other people’s pages. Not an offensive suggestion in and of itself, but the reason for doing it and the priority it implied made me want to slam my laptop closed and be like, ‘I’m out!’ While I’m certainly not new to Facebook, I admit to being a ‘just the basics’ kind of girl when it comes to how I prefer to engage my technology. I did wonder how ‘watching’ a page was different than ‘liking’ a page. Here’s what it said: Track the progress of 5
How To Love People
I fall in love a lot. I don’t mean with romantic partners, but whoever I’m falling in love with, there’s an air of romance. Because it’s euphoric. It’s that beginning bubble, the you’re-so-amazing-I-want-to-know-everything-about-you-and-share-you-with-my-world. Falling in love with new friends, colleagues, clients and neighbours feels like joy infused curiosity. Hey there fellow human, I’m so glad you’re here. Thanks for sharing who you are with me! The best thing we can do with our love is allow it to heal and create. When we come together in friendship or romance, in business or community, our coming together and loving of one
GOSSIP. THE FAST FOOD OF CONNECTION
You want me to see you. You want me to know you. You want me to get what makes you tick and seek and swoon. I want you to hear me. I want you to meet me. I want your curiosity to wash me open and exposed and delight in what she sees. We want connection. We want resonance and shared meaning and recognition. We want to give and receive the treats of our meandering souls. And so we talk about our acquaintance’s failings and our sister’s secrets. We whisper about the underdog’s disgrace or the head cheerleader’s imperfections. There’s
The Sweet Burden of Being Privileged
I’ll admit to there being times when I’m consumed with guilt for my very existence. While not helpful to anyone, there are those times. I almost feel like I got away with something, being born a woman in this place, in this time in history. These are pretty unreal living conditions. The reality of the cultural conditions for so many alive today and who’ve come before- and here I am. Here. I am. I get this life? Why? My own mother can bring me to tears with tales of her childhood and I do say she exceeded her intention
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