You probably know by now that the most interesting topic for me is around what it means to have a purpose and how to realize that. If you’re new here, hey, now you know!
This is a question I’ve been asking, living and really quite honestly tying myself up in knots around and then untangling for as long as I can remember. Seriously, the existential angst my poor friends had to suffer through in my 20s spans the worlds of sad and endearing. It really can be a vortex of exploration whether you’re leaning into the spiritual questions, practical application, creative expression, moral implications and obligations, or the mind-f of what does it actually mean to be in full alignment anyway?!
The more I learn, whether through philosophical musing and theoretical study or simply the hard knocks and embodied wisdom that comes through experience, the more questions and mysteries actually arise. For me, it’s shifted from trying to figure it out and arrive at something to being at the source of deep alignment and creating a culture around how we approach our work in the world in a way that works way better for us as individuals and our impact on the world at large than the traditional approaches and systems.
In this call, I explore the question ‘what is purpose’? I also offer a look at the aspects that are included in a fully realized and aligned purpose in the world. I touch on my own experience with these different aspects a little in the call, but thought you might be interested more clearly in how these aspects are alive for me personally.
How I rock the alignment of my purpose…
I am fascinated by people, by human development- mostly adult development. I get almost hyper enthused by how we construct meaning, interpret reality and engage with reality. What it means to be human, what it takes to deal with being here and how to create sustainable change are totally my passions. More specifically, I’m drawn to women, leadership, self-expression and creativity, and the intersection of the interior experience, relationship with spirit and the practical world. Culture fascinates me. Injustice infuriates and attracts me. I love the underdog. I’m sensitive but fierce and powerful which makes me want to hug the world but get all scrappy with the selfish assholes. For a while I got obsessed with pain and how people deal with it. Right now I’m really interested in emotional development. I’m relational. I like edgy and crude humour. Nothing gets me sobbing faster than a bunch of people coming together for a cause, for each other and be willing to risk their comfort, resources and reputation for what is good.External Expression:
The vehicle for expressing all this is writing, coaching and speaking. I’m gifted at all of these. They come naturally to me. So does cultivating relationship, meeting people where they are and making them feel comfortable, loved, accepted. I’m good at giving language to what’s happening, within myself and others and pointing things out culturally. I’m also skilled at seeing possibility and opportunity- really entrepreneurial, and so all that interior stuff has an endless stream of opportunity to be expressed. Things I’m skilled at now that haven’t come naturally, that I would even say I used to suck at that I’ve consciously worked on are finishing things that I start, being focused and grounded, being assertive and clear, making direct requests, saying no and setting boundaries and sharing vulnerability. Cultivating these habits and skills have helped me to have greater alignment.
I help people develop and transform themselves. You can read the more detailed accounts of my client’s perspectives and experience. But the overarching impact of this external expression is helping people to be more effective, leverage their talents and gifts and increase their influence while deepening satisfaction. Align their purpose. Why I choose to work with leaders, people with influence and people with a true and sincere desire to be of service is that the ripple effect that gets to occur is great. I want to alleviate suffering. I want to alleviate the suffering of those who also want to alleviate suffering. There are a lot of really horrific things happening in this world and some very broken systems. The more those with power and influence wake up and develop, the greater the possibilities of having healthy and thriving systems and culture.
I get paid and I get paid well. I make my money through 1 on 1 coaching and group programs. More recent is making money speaking and have just started on faculty with ICC as the lead teacher of the Mastery Coaching Module. That’s the money part of my current means of remunerations. But much of the time and energy that goes into my work, into my purpose, is not paid. It’s the content I create, the people I’ve coached and supported pro-bono, the communities I engage with. I have plenty of external impact that is aligned with my interior experience and passions and expressed through my gifts that I don’t get money for and don’t want or need money for. As I cover in the call, there are many ways to be remunerated. As an extrovert, I’m energized by connection and relationship. That energy feeds and fuels me and connects me to what matters. I also get influence, respect and a sense of love and belonging. I am supported and encouraged by others. People give me their time and attention. These are very important to feeling aligned with my sense of purpose. Far more than money, feeling connected and part of something buoys me and encourages me to take risks and move past fear and discomfort.
And for anyone who’s ever felt like they need to ‘find’ their purpose, the only way I know of to do that is to live it, to seek out what’s out of alignment and continue to move, even when fumbling in the dark, toward that which is calling you.
I hope the live call offers you something to sink your teeth into and if you want to delve deeper, get in here.