Have you ever had a vision be so big that any steps you take toward it feel pale, inadequate and like they’ll never add up? Like the reality of your work, efforts, and results are in and of themselves evidence of failure or mediocrity? The enormity of what’s needed, utterly daunting? When the gap between vision and the current manifestation of things is big and when you look around at people who are carrying out such visions, such bigness, such impact, anything that’s in the shadow of that vision can seem so small. Perhaps you tell yourself, those are big things, but what I’m up to feels like small things, not what I imagine will make the leap. And then maybe you add, why are these small things so hard? But here’s the thing with things (so many things!) No one is up to big things. The big things are a cumulation of small things. Small thing after small thing. Making the hard choice, delaying gratification, staying with discomfort, having the difficult conversation, … [Read more...]
Do you need to see a finish line before you can hit your creative stride?
Has this pandemic shocked your creative system? Rhythms have changed. The world has changed. The up and downs of trying to process what’s happening alone can take all the energy! For Robyn, this extra time at home feels like she’s back in her twenties- hangin’ out, lots of time for creative projects- awesome, right? Or panic-inducing. Maybe you’re used to rolling out projects on an assembly line. Deadlines and feedback are what usually keep your creative juices flowing, and now you’re looking for a set of quarantine rules to keep you accountable and engaged. In this mini-coaching session, we explore creativity as a life source. How can we be in dialogue with our creativity so that we can sink into our authentic expression in a time of such immense unknown? Would you love to join me for your own mini-coaching session on Coaching for the Collective? Apply here. … [Read more...]
Got the adapting disease? Know when to disrupt.
You’ve done the training. You know your stuff. You’re called to this. But there’s something in the way. If you’ve ever felt like your sensitivity or attunement to others is holding you back from claiming your seat at the table, this session of Coaching for the Collective is for you. Meet Tui. Chameleon extraordinaire, who observes a space and can adapt herself to meet what’s needed. Do you share that adaptive superpower? At what cost? Join us as we explore the nuances of creating a business practice as an intuitive shapeshifter. We talk about finding and nurturing your own voice, leaning into disruptions, and the genius of sensitivity. Would you love to join me for your own mini-coaching session on Coaching for the Collective? Apply here. … [Read more...]
But what if I suck?
The slugs have decimated my kale and I’m pissed about it. So much effort, love and attention in setting up this little growing paradise and half the plants are gone. This is a metaphor for life, my lovely neighbour. I’m not reaching, stay with me here. Slugs are the small, inner narratives that slowly creep in when it’s dark and eat away at the parts of us that are trying to find the light and grow. They don’t start with the stems. They don’t go after that which is hardy and stable, they go after the leaves. The delicate, new growth that is reaching outward. Call it the inner critic, resistance, habits of lower thought, whatever works for you. What are yours? You suck? You never stick to things? People don’t like you? You don’t have what it takes? You’re a failure? Check it out...just reading those lines, what’s happening in your body? While writing, my belly tensed and I was holding my breath. I re-read them and recoiled, a bit annoyed. And those weren’t even … [Read more...]
I can’t believe I almost got this tattoo
Several years ago, I was planning to get a massive owl tattoo on my shoulder. I’d talked myself into the meaning and significance of this bird and chosen an artist who came recommended by the server at the organic pie shop who had beautiful, vintage butterflies tattooed down her arm. Then I had an awakening. Not the kind that comes from a steady meditation practice or Ayahuasca journey. This awakening happened in the middle of Exposure Home, a basic, trendy home store on Commercial Drive in Vancouver. I saw this cool owl book end in the style I was thinking of for this permanently on my body piece of art. Then I noticed some owl figurines. And an owl clock. And then...there was an owl on the $120 linen throw pillow. Holy shit. I was about to turn my body into an episode of Portlandia and put a bird on it! Owls were freaking everywhere. Owls were on trend. I didn’t have some mystical, witchy connection to owls. Their emerging presence in the shared spaces had worked … [Read more...]
The collapse of life and work. How are we adapting?
Balancing ‘work’ and ‘life’ right now is what one might call a ‘shit show’. I love it. Kind of. I just tried to record a video for you. Twice. Both ended when my toddler started screaming outside my office door. Actually, the first one, I just kept going, because many parents now have a new ‘work soundtrack’ and it sounds like their kids! But then my dog started barking, the distractions became intolerable and I just really wanted to be living BY MYSELF in a hotel room so I could work in peace. As I write this I can hear my husband talking the big kid through his school work in the next room as the little kid is announcing his new fave word ad nauseum.... “no no no no no no no”. But, you know what’s beautiful and exciting about this to me? (hold on, big kid just burst in, I’m going to send him to get me more coffee). Okay, I’m back. Back to my point. And if this is feeling fragmented to read, that’s the point. The culture is really changing around work and … [Read more...]
Which direction will fulfill the dream?
What if your project, business, creative works, areas of life even, were each a living being all their own? Their own needs and aspirations, their own timing, their own life cycles. How might you relate to them differently? How might you listen? How might you take care of and steward them? Meet Jennifer. An actor, performance artist and teacher. She’s bringing a lot of heart and discernment to her ‘what’s next’, qualities we could all use right about now. If you’re multi passionate, have several initiatives on the go and feel like you don’t know which to prioritize, watch this session of Coaching for the Collective. If you’re also rocked sideways by what to focus on in this pandemic, this session is for you. We explore the tension of pursuing passion and making a living, grief and letting go, heeding the season that you’re in (the topic of next week’s workshop) and ritual to help put down to pursue what’s ripe for you. Thank you, Jennifer, for this conversation! For … [Read more...]
The inner committee harshing your dreams?
Do you have a dream or project that you want to pursue but the inner committee shuts you down before you can even begin? Have we got a conversation for you! This was such a moving session. I’m so grateful to Gloria for sharing her struggles with getting to the page to write her novel. After a lifetime of abandoning her own dreams and following what others deem appropriate and responsible, as well pleasing and caring for everyone but herself, it’s time to rewrite her identity and write the book. How does she start to listen to what matters to her and pursue that, especially as it threatens what she’s been taught is good and right? If you’ve lived a life where the external messages have not only been internalized, but have pressured you to show up in a particular way, we’ve got some new paths and practices for you. Join us and learn how to leverage the external world to lovingly hold you accountable to your dreams as well as how to meet and build your inner landscape to … [Read more...]
Fear of feedback and failure? Build creative resilience.
Putting your heart and soul into something and then offering it out to the world may be one of the bravest and most vulnerable things you’ll ever do. When we’re creators and service providers, collaborators and artists, feedback can fine tune our offerings and elevate our art. When we take the lead on something that matters, feedback or critique can help sharpen our sword and deepen our impact. But what happens when feedback cuts through our tender underbelly and guts us? How do we process, integrate and grieve feedback that opens old wounds or undercuts our sense of self-worth? Meet Nikki, our generous ‘coachee’ on a new episode of Coaching for the Collective. She’s brought a real time challenge and is examining a lifetime of patterns she’s ready to liberate. If you’ve ever felt like closing and withdrawing after feedback or perceived failure and want a way to build resilience while showing up with everything you’ve got, this conversation is for you! Are you … [Read more...]
Working from home? A survivor’s guide
Families are getting a crash course in how to work from home together with their children and before mass insanity ensues, I thought I’d drop some tips. My family has mastered this shit. I’ve run my business online with location independence since 2009. My husband also works from home, running a non-profit, going to grad school and holding the role of DDP (default daytime parent.) We have an 18 month old toddler and 12 year old and some hot tips for how to juggle. Here is all you need to know. You’re welcome. Have a solid morning ritual: We like to start our day by competing over who’s better at pretending they’re sleeping through the baby's cries starting the day like a rooster’s call. We then allow the children’s demands to dictate the pace and flow of the morning, which removes the risk of early morning decision fatigue. Schedules are for suckers: They’ll tell you a schedule will keep you sane. But there’s no keeping you sane, so why shoot for unreachable goals? Instead, … [Read more...]
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