If you feel like you’re expanding out to the whole world, feeling fully on purpose, taking it up a level, reaching out further and then, contracting to that squeezing, tight space of overwhelm when we run out of energy and resources – I’m with you. How could we possibly bring more compassion and help to a world that’s very structures and systems don’t support or value that? I know we won’t get it from those systems and structures. In this Dear Chela episode I talk about a few ways we can start to identify what we most fundamentally need. Join
Dear Chela: How do I survive the holidays with my ex?
When relationships end, we hope that those activating dynamics are over. When, in fact, it can intensify. How do we prepare and create mental and emotional space? An important first step is taking the time to know what’s possible and what might trigger us. This Dear Chela episode offers up some grounding strategies. By the way – this can be useful with anyone that we emotionally bump up against. How about you? What have you done when dealing with an ex? What about other relationships that trigger us? What are the practices you have in place? Join me in the
Dear Chela: Got any NEW strategies to not eat and drink myself into a shame coma this holiday?
The holidays can be a rough time. Tricky and sticky and emotionally complex. It can also be joyful and connected and playful. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves with what’s going on. Who we’re with. Who we’re not with. Eating. Drinking. Overwhelm. Overconsumption. Do you slip into making yourself wrong? Avoiding what you don’t want? Anticipating the need to control yourself? In this Dear Chela episode, I talk about the cycle we can feel pulsating during this time. And I explore what we are really hungry for. Over to you. Maybe it’s not the eating and drinking. What
Dear Chela: Marriage. Kids. Building a Business. How can I find sanity and sleep?
Surviving. Sustaining. Growing. Where are you at? In this Dear Chela episode, a reader asks how to balance a full family life with a full and growing business. First, I want to point out that survival mode isn’t a bad thing. It’s valid. It is a state that we can find ourselves in. I offer up some practices and ways of playing with your roles to start shifting out of, or surrendering to, survival and into a more spacious life. Do you have any tips on how to navigate these waters? This is a great conversation to have in the
Dear Chela: Am I speaking my truth or just being totally judgemental?
We’ve all had those moments when judgements are bubbling up about others. Do we call them out or keep tight lipped? Maybe a friend is annoying or an employee isn’t pulling their weight. Or some bigger opinions are tugging to be voiced. In this Dear Chela episode, I break down when telling the truth is honouring our authentic self and when it’s better to keep your opinion to yourself. Over to you. Have you had sticky conversations and how did you make the call to speak your truth? Let’s relate in the comments below. Have your own burning question? Ask
Dear Chela: How can I figure out what work I’m meant to do?
What if you have followed all of the rules, taken action, reached out externally and walked down a multitude of paths to find meaningful work…and you still don’t know what you want? This Dear Chela episode offers a way to start exploring your interior and finally start to uncover what matters to you in your career. What about you? Did anyone else feel they went through this crisis? What helped? Let’s relate in the comments below. Have your own burning question? Ask me here
Dear Chela – How can I put my work away at night knowing I’ve done enough?
Does anyone feel their self worth tied to what they accomplish in a day? I have a feeling a few million of you relate. So, we intentionally create boundaries and implement rhythms of when we work and when we rest, right? Sometimes our rules actually bump against our real rhythms, which results in us feeling wrong no matter what. This Dear Chela episode pulls apart some assumptions about work and self worth. In the video, I told you I’d dig up some practices that might help here. I found some! I designed a 5-week free practice called “Maybe I Don’t Need to
Dear Chela: Should I stay or should I go?
Romantic relationships are living, breathing, complex creatures. The dynamics of relationship need to include some individual unpacking as well as partner work. This Dear Chela is coming from a very intimate and vulnerable place. I offer my advice on betrayal and trust, and I hope that what I have to say touches anyone at any stage of a relationship. As promised, I have linked to some book recommendations below that I found incredibly helpful in holding relationship. Please feel free to contribute books or resources that you think are helpful in the comments below. Keeping the Love You Find
Dear Chela: How do I stop fear from running my business?
Fear wants to run the show when we start new projects, like a business. Even a change in career or lifestyle can be scary. We think that we shouldn’t have fear or that we can make it go away, which just isn’t the case. So how do we work with fear when starting something new? This Dear Chela episode explores some specific strategies and mindsets I use on a regular basis to stay grounded and connected to my vision. And tell me: What do you do when fear rises? Relating to one another is incredibly helpful and supportive. Meet me
Dear Chela: I can’t stop eating and spending. Help!
Poor decisions. We’ve all made them. What happens when we find ourselves making them over and over again? In this Dear Chela episode, I address what’s really going on with compulsive and destructive behaviour, the states we find ourselves in and the bigger cultural picture around the work we really need to be doing. Watch below. What do you think? Have you ever struggled with compulsion or addiction? What did you do to bring yourself out of that loop? This tender topic is so close to so many and yet there’s often shame around talking about it. I’d love to
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